His Secret Obsession

How do you become His Secret Obsession? It is when you tap into a man’s most primal, inner desire... he literally becomes obsessed with you.

What it means when...a man stops trying.

It means something is missing in the relationship. What’s missing is something he needs in order to feel fully alive as a man.

That missing thing is what I want to tell you about. It’s an obsession all men have. But they rarely talk about it unless they are a psychologist with a Ph.D. in masculinity and male psychological needs and drives. But once you know about it, it’s really easy to see how you can use it to your advantage.

When a man stops trying…it’s because he has no outlet for this “obsession”…or at least not in his relationship with you. As a result, your relationship begins to wither and die. But it’s not too late. Learn to open the floodgates for this obsession. Then it will cause his energy to flow into his relationship with you. After that, all you have to do is sit back and watch him work on making the relationship something beautiful he can feel proud of.

You Can Flip on a Man’s “Obsession Switch” by Making Him See Romance as a Game He Can Win.

Guys love a good competition. In fact, men are wired to compete. Competitive games drive the social interaction of boys on the elementary school playground. When they grow up (…if they grow up) they throw their energy into work, physical fitness, acquiring man-toys, or adventures of various types.

What if you could channel all that energy toward the relationship he has with you?

You can. And the key is flipping a switch. A switch in his biological reaction system. A switch that causes him to see his relationship with you as the ultimate opportunity to prove himself as a man.

Discover the key to winning a man's love, attention and total devotion for life

There’s a secret combination of hidden male obsessions. Align all three and you’ve unlocked the mystery of your man’s heart.

“If only I knew exactly what he wanted…” Have you ever found yourself thinking that?

It’s no coincidence that your thoughts turn in that direction. Because it’s the most direct route to getting something you deeply desire. The combination to unlock his heart and make it yours forever.

You see, all men share certain secret obsessions. These are things they can’t ask for directly because they operate at a deep level of the male psyche. Yet those obsessions provide a backdoor that allow someone with the right tool to hack in and steal the code.

Would that be useful to you?

Imagine holding the key to his unique combination of desires. The things that make his heart home with happiness. And imagine if you could align yourself with those desires. You would become the center of his world. The person who understands him best. The one he could never leave or forget.

It all becomes possible when you learn about his secret obsessions, the back door that can reveal his deepest needs and desires.

What People Are Saying

Thank you James! I found reading His Secret Obsession very inspiring in helping me to understand my husband and has help me to overcome many anger issues I have had with him for what he did to me and our marriage 26 years ago. I have found peace with your readings too and I find all your blogs very helpful and useful. I will be forever grateful to you for sharing your works with not only me but for all the other wives, girlfriends and women who read your works. I thank you for saving my marriage!
Diane
Designer
Your research and advice was invaluable. My boyfriend has changed from being distant and too busy to see me – and now the opposite is true. I kept being patient for ages. Then I read the section about not bottling it all up, fuming inside. Instead I told him by text how I felt – in a nice way, full of compliments. He immediately asked to see me, he couldn’t wait! We had a lovely time, and I listened well, talked a bit, following your guidance on the power and beauty of silence. I could write a lot more, but for now, I just want to say thank you, thank you x 100!
Eva
Nurse
I’m 64 years old. Most likely a bit older than most of the people who read this blog (I’m so old I’m not even sure if it’s called a blog! I was constantly searching for love. I was sure something was wrong with me because I could never find it. I was always falling for the wrong man. I found physical and emotional abusers. If I loved them they didn’t love me. And if they loved me I didn’t love them. Looking back now, I know I stunk of desperation. Then I discovered this blog. The wise words of James Bauer have been a godsend for me. I finally learned to play it smarter, relaxed and turned it over to God. And guess what! Love found me! I know this message is long and most people won’t have the patience to read all the way through it. It I hope enough people read this last. Be patient. Let go of the desperation. Read this blog. Take the free advice that is given here and maybe even buy a lesson or two. And maybe you’ll find the man you’ve been looking for all of your life. And chances are much better, thanks to the advice given here, you won’t blow it. Best of luck.
Abigail
Teacher
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Sophie
Financial analyst

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